No More Filler Words
Filler word? What is that? To put it simply, it is our way of filling gaps between words or thoughts. If we don’t know what to say and we are trying to fill what would ordinarily be a pause in sound coming from our mouths while we think, we end up adding in a filler word. Overall, they make our speaking seem less polished. They make us seem like we have not thought about what we are going to say before we say it, and whether or not that is true, there are ways to alleviate this issue. The best solution is to eliminate the use of filler words when speaking.
Do you struggle with filler words? Below are some ideas that may help reduce how often you use filler words when you speak. Note that there are several different types of filler words. Everyone has their favorite, so first, get a friend to listen to you speak (giving a mock presentation is usually best) and have them point out what they heard you say the most from the list below. Once you know your favorite fillers, find them below for some starter recommendations on how to address them.
(Um, Ah, Uh, Er) - We use these fillers because we are looking to fill the void in a sentence or between sentences. Instead of reaching for one of these filler words, try to use the moment you are trying to fill with them to breathe. Sometimes we need some space to catch our breath when speaking, so pause instead of speaking.
(Like, You Know, Anyway, Well) - These fillers are used as a mental transition between thoughts. The goal with these fillers is to remove them from your vocabulary entirely. They are informal and detract from professional, commanding speaking. A pause, or jumping into your next sentence, would be better than using one of these fillers.
(So, But) - These two are hard to nail down because they have their uses (case in point), but they can also be used inappropriately. For "so", the wrong use would be as a transition to your next point or sentence. The more appropriate use of "so" would be in describing something (e.g., "so much better"). At that point, if you are using "so" to emphasize something, there is probably a better word you can use to capture the moment. "But" falls into a similar category. It has to be used in transitions correctly, and cannot simply be used to bridge the gap between two thoughts.
(Repeating the same word/phrase) - The best way to avoid repeating the same word twice, or phrase multiple times, is to say it correctly, and to slow... down. It can be hard, as you want to get to your point, reach your punchline, or get your presentation over with. Know that good things come in time, and the greatness of your speaking deserves patience and an even cadence. Slow down and practice what you are going to say, and you will do great.
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